and distinguish between what is known as 'an internal and external locus of control', and help you understand that an imbalanced external locus of control can lead you to blaming all or most negative situations and outcomes on people, places and things outside yourself, while an imbalanced internal locus of control can lead you to take responsibility for problems that are not of your own making. It is sometimes difficult for all of us to 'own' problems and to take responsibility for making necessary changes in our lives. It can  appear unfair to 'have to make life changes' when the problem has been created by factors. outside of ourselves. It can be difficult to understand that we will accepts you 'just as you are' while at the same time encourage you to make necessary changes to increase/enhance your mental health wellness. Acceptance occurs when we do not make judgments about the nature of your problem or how your problem developed, while (at the same time) helping you accept that you are responsible for working on and improving your situation even if you did not cause it, and help you to use your time in therapy for maximum benefit. Accepting you is not the same thing as agreeing with everything you will say and believe, and it doesn't mean we will not explore tough issues with you. A case in point is an anxious client who has irrational fears of people, places or things. This person would not benefit from therapy if the therapist sat and listened to these fears over and over and did not take action to help the client change the beliefs behind these fears.